rules?

ok so i'm at church 3 times a week & i highly enjoy it. but in the past 2 weeks some of the things we've been discussing in bible study have been making me feel...disturbed. like i'm not a huge fan of organized religions, so the fact that sometimes they're saying that what's written in the bible MUST be followed really ticks me off.

let's start with me saying that i didn't grow up going to church, i didn't grow up in a very religious family. i started going to church only this summer actually.

so the first one that doesn't go well with me is the fact that in church they pretty much force it down your throat that you have to wait until you're married to have sex. now i'm not encouringing premarital sex, not at all. but never in my life was i told by anyone that i HAVE to wait. it's a personal decision i made, not to god, but to my fututre husband. it's quite different. i feel like if you have premarital sex the church pretty much shuns you for it. we are each individuals who make our own choices & mistakes. simple enough.

the second one is that christians sometimes are so high & mighty when it comes to other religions. although we may all believe in the same or similar god, they say if you dont' believe that jesus died for our sins, you're going to hell. i think that is so worng. although i'm very greatful that jesus died for me to live, i don't think it's right that the others will not go to heaven just for that.

and the most recent one- that was actually disscussed today- was that we shouldn't associate ourselves with nonbelievers. ok that one really made me mad. so now the church & bible get to decide who i can & can't be friends with or even date? i do not think so. it was just so frustrating to sit there for you know like an hour and a half and listen to Ryan say that we shouldn't associate with them because they'll bring us down and blah blah blah. but then he turns around and tells us a story of how a nonbeliever started going to church because she was dating a christian and how all of a sudden she dissapeared. when asked why she stoped going she said that from what she if that was what being a christian was, she didn't want to be part of it. so it's like we're just as bad. i don't know, i mean it just made me pretty angry.

well that's enough on my point of views. guys please don't come argue with me, this is what i think- not what i believe should be right.